Another quiet polite episode; even quieter than yesterday. We have to go catch the bus home in a bit, so we’re up early in a hotel.
I was listening to the inestimable Paul F Tompkins the other day and he mentioned that one of his great inescapable fears in life is being yelled at. I’m similar, but I don’t even need the yelling-at. Just the thought that somebody is thinking poorly of me is enough to give me the hives. I have prolonged friendships far past their exploitative and horrible past-due dates because of this. I have put myself through all sorts of weird discomfort over this. I’m sure 90% of it was unnecessary.
And yet I persist. I’m still reasonably convinced that the world would be a better place if we were all overconsiderate rather than underconsiderate.
So it’s a quiet podcast today.
We spent to much on our weekend away, thanks to a couple of cool things we ran into (my wife is now the proud owner of a pillow that is made specifically to have a hot water bottle inside of it, which we think will get a lot of use over the rest of the winter). But the food plan was adhered to, drinking on her end was measured and on my end was entirely absent. It was a good weekend.
We’re considerate with each other, which helps — honestly considerate, not over or under. Again, it’s a better way to live than not being considerate at all. I know there’s a certain vogue right now on the right wing toward negating and hating people who have feelings, but it’s a losing game, down the line.
Being considerate is ultimately about maximizing other people’s ability to feel comfortable. And that maximizes their ability to contribute. And a society where everyone can contribute to the best of their ability, because they’re not distracted or preoccupied by, well, assholes, is a good and productive society.
I’m not sure why that’s so difficult for people to figure out.
Anyway, I’m talking quietly. Because it’s early, and I’m in a hotel.